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The DateCGL Guide

Fill out your profile as fully as you can.

☆ Become verified as a real person to let others know they can trust that you're not a bot.

☆ Check out the Member Map and see if there's anyone local to you that you might be interested in getting to know.

☆ Use the Search function to locate people who match your preferences.

☆ Send a friendship request to those people you want to privately chat with through the chat system.

☆ Log in often. Feel free to bookmark the site. You don't want to miss an opportunity to get to know someone great!

☆ Create a brief personals ad to encourage people to read more about you on your profile.

☆ Maintain a personal blog on the site so that people can read even more about you and your life.

☆ Join and post in member-created Interest Groups to connect with people who are interested in the same topics.

☆ Browse through member photos that may catch your eye of someone you might want to connect with here, or post your own photos so you can catch the eye of someone else.

☆ Attend events within the community for in-person interaction.

☆ Register an account at the Littlespace Online forum to learn more about yourself, your needs, and the community existence. Personal growth is great!

Help support our free community dating site. You gain a few more features, such as profile header/banner customization and supporter recognition, to help you really show your personality in a fun way.

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Questions to Ask a Potential Caregiver

Basic Questions to Ask Potential Caregivers

How did you discover Caregiver/little (CGL, DDLG, MDLB, ABDL, or whatever you're specifically connecting over)?

What interests you or what do you like about CGL relationships?

Are you always a Caregiver or do you switch roles sometimes? If so, are you 50% Caregiver/50% little or something else?

How long have you been a Caregiver?

Why do you think you're a Caregiver?

What type of Caregiver are you?

What do you like to be called as a Caregiver?

What do you like to do for your little?

Relationship Questions to Ask Potential Caregivers

How many people have you been a Caregiver to in the past?

Why do you think your past relationship attempts failed?

Are you caring for anyone right now?

Are you interested in having a 24/7 CGL style relationship where your partner would be little and rely on you all of the time?

Preference Questions to Ask Potential Caregivers

What type of little do you like? Bratty, angelic, infantile, more teenagey, ..?

What little age do you think is the best for you and seems to make you happiest?

What do you really, really, really like doing for your little? Something that you need to feel fulfilled. Basically, what is something that has made you the happiest in doing for them in the past?

What do you expect your little to be like usually?

Do you think your little should work a job and help support themselves, you, or your household/family together if you get very serious with them?

Intimate Questions to Ask Potential Caregivers

Are you only sexual, sometimes sexual, rarely sexual, or never sexual?

Do you like CGL sexual-based scenes or is it nonsexual for you?

Deeper Questions to Ask Potential Caregivers

  • What does CGL mean to YOU? How do you define or describe it?
    • What do you feel a Caregiver is or does? What type of Caregiver are you?
    • What do you feel a Little/Adult Baby is or does? What type of Little do you think is the most ideal for you?
    • How do you think a relationship that is CGL based is different than a typical relationship? In your opinion or as far as you're aware, what, specifically, is done differently?

  • Where or how did you learn about CGL?
    • Do you have any resources you could point me toward that you feel accurately explains CGL?

  • Do you think you've had a CGL relationship before? Why didn't it work out in the end? What was the most fulfilling about it?


  • What do you want from a CGL relationship?
    • What makes you the happiest about CGL relationships? What is most fulfilling about it?

  • What do you think the CGL community needs to better it's growth?


  • Is CGL a kink to you? Do you only or primarily think of it being sexual for you? Is it a "turn on" for you in general so that any time you think of CGL you think of sexual situations?
    • Are there times where you want to be very Caregiver-like but not sexual at all? Can you give me some examples of times where you want to be Caregiver-like and what those times look like in your mind?


Questions to Ask a Potential Little

Basic Questions to Ask Potential Littles

How did you discover Caregiver/little (CGL, DDLG, MDLB, ABDL, or whatever you're specifically connecting over)?

What interests you or what do you like about CGL relationships?

Are you always a little or do you switch roles sometimes? If so, are you 50% little/50% Caregiver or something else?

How long have you been or realized you were a little?

How did you discover that you're a little?

What are some reasons why you identify as a little?

What type of little or age regressor are you?

What do you like to be called as a little when you're being taken care of?

What do you like to do for your Caregiver?

What do you like to do when you're really feeling little or actively regressing?

Relationship Questions to Ask Potential Littles

How many people have you been a little to in the past?

Why do you think your past relationship attempts failed?

Is anyone caring for you right now?

Are you interested in having a 24/7 CGL style relationship where you would be little and rely on your partner all of the time?

What do you personally think you can offer to a Caregiver?

Preference Questions to Ask Potential Littles

What type of Caregiver do you like? Many rules, chores and assignments, strict and heavy on punishments, only positive reinforcement, ..?

How much care do you think is the best for you and seems to make you happiest?

What do you really, really, really like your Caregiver doing for you? Something that you need to feel fulfilled. Basically, what is something that has made you the happiest in them doing for you in the past?

What do you expect your Caregiver to be like usually?

Do you think littles should work a job and help support themselves, you, or your household/family together if you get very serious with them?

Regression Questions to Ask Potential Littles

What are your needs when you're regressed?

Do you wear or use adult diapers?

What is your little-age?

Do you have an item you're very attached to when feeling little?

What are some activities or things you like to do when feeling little or regressing?

Intimate Questions to Ask Potential Littles

Are you only sexual, sometimes sexual, rarely sexual, or never sexual?

Do you like CGL sexual-based scenes or is it nonsexual for you?

During sexual-based situations, are you still little and regressed or are you in an adult mindset only?

Deeper Questions to Ask Potential Littles

  • What does CGL mean to YOU? How do you define or describe it?
    • What do you feel a little is or does? What type of little or age regressor are you?
    • What do you feel a Caregiver is or does? What type of Caregiver do you think is the most ideal for you?
    • How do you think a relationship that is CGL based is different than a typical relationship? In your opinion or as far as you're aware, what, specifically, is done differently?

  • Where or how did you learn about CGL?
    • Do you have any resources you could point me toward that you feel accurately explains CGL?

  • Do you think you've had a CGL relationship before? Why didn't it work out in the end? What was the most fulfilling about it?


  • What do you want from a CGL relationship?
    • What makes you the happiest about CGL relationships? What is most fulfilling about it?

  • What do you think the CGL community needs to better it's growth?


  • Is CGL a kink to you? Do you only or primarily think of it being sexual for you? Is it a "turn on" for you in general so that any time you think of CGL you think of sexual situations?
    • Are there times where you want to be very little-like but not sexual at all? Can you give me some examples of times where you want to be regressed or little-like and what those times look like in your mind?


Questions to Ask a Potential Partner

General Questions to Ask (Age)

"How old are you?"
"When is your birthday?"
"What is 'too old' for you and what is 'too young' for you when connecting with people like me? Everybody has perferences!"

General Questions to Ask (Location & Living Situation)

"Where do you live right now?"
"Where are you from?"
"Do you like where you live?"
"Do you live alone, with family, or with roommates?"

General Questions to Ask (Name)

"What's your name?"
"What name do you like to go by?"
"What name should I call you by while we're still getting to know each other?"

General Questions to Ask (Occupation)

"What do you do for a living?"
"How many hours do you usually work?"
"Do you work day shift or overnights?"
"Do you like your job?"
"Do you plan on changing your career path?"

General Questions to Ask (Free time / Activities / Hobbies / Interests)

"What do you do in your free time?"
"What are some activities you enjoy?"
"What are your hobbies?"
"What are your main interests?"
"What takes up most of your time right now?
"What are some of your favorite songs or musical artists?"
"What are some of your favorite movies?"
"What is your favorite ..."

General Questions to Ask (General)

"What are some of your favorite foods?"
"When do you usually go to sleep?"
"Are you online a lot?"
"Are politics important to you? If so, what party do you belong? Are you passionate about voting or activism?"
"Are you religious? If so, do you belong to a church or organized group? Is it important to you to find a partner with the same belief system?"

General Questions to Ask (Relationship Status)

"Are you seeing anyone right now? If so, how do they feel about you seeing other people?"
"Are you in a relationship?"
"Are you looking for a(nother) partner?"

General Questions to Ask (Relationship Preferences)

"Are you looking for a monogamous or polyamorous type of relationship?"
"Are you looking for something serious or just online roleplay?"
"Are you looking for something long-term or just short-term, whenever?"
"Are you looking for only local partners or are you open to trying a long distance relationship?"

General Questions to Ask (Partner Preferences)

"What type of partner(s) are you looking to find?"
"What do you like in a partner?"
"Do you have a body type you like most?"
"Do you have age preferences?"

General Questions to Ask (Communication Preferences)

"Do you prefer to chat here or elsewhere?"
"When might you be comfortable voice or video chatting?"
"Do you prefer to be in constant communication or only at set times that are convenient for us both?"

General Questions to Ask (Intimacy)

"What is your sexuality?"
"Are you a virgin? If so, is that a personal choice in waiting? If not, how many people have you been intimate up up until now? (Are you tested for STDs/STIs regularly? When was your last check-up?)"
"Do you have any kinks? If so, what do you feel comfortable sharing with me about those?"
"How long do you like to know or be with someone before you become intimate?"
"Do you have any soft or hard limits?"


DateCGL Site FAQ

How do I..?

Please check our Help Center!

Can I add a Shops & Links url to that page?

Sure. If it looks like something targeted to the community and that you support then yes. Please do not submit affiliate links though!

What is a "Club"?

Clubs are just interest groups on the site. You can use them to meet other people that are interested in things you're interested in, basically. You're welcome to create your own too.

Do I have to keep a photo of myself as my main image?

Well...yes. We're flexible to some degree on the photo rules though. You don't have to take a full head-to-toe image or a photo that is even extremely clear and directly of your face. Be reasonable and respectful though and we will consider what you upload. If it's not okay we'll just remove it and let you re-upload something else. It isn't a big deal!


It's really helped the community take one another seriously. The site is intended to help you make real connections and a part of dating means putting yourself out there a little bit.

Also, we talk about the photo rules here.

What is the "Quick Match" portal?

On mobile devices it's a swipe-left (not interested) or swipe-right (interested) situation like they use on other, widely known dating sites. On a desktop or regular computer it's a red X (not interested) or green heart option (interested).

It's just to help you flip through a few photos quickly if you're mostly visual. If both people swipe right/press the green heart for each other then they're notified and automatically become friends to help allow private chatting between them. (You can always remove them as a friend if you made an accident!) You don't have to use it.

Do I have to submit a personals ad too? Isn't my profile enough?

You do not need to submit a personals ad if you don't want to do it. We do encourage you to fill out your profile as thoroughly as you can but, aside from that, we feel like profiles are enough since they allow for multiple distance searches and even some customization for supporters. The personals section is to just add yet another area for you to make public that you're on the search for someone special!

How can I see who has visited my profile in the past 30 days?

How can I see who is close or local to me?

We have a few profile options that set this up.

The Distance section does a fast, automatic search using the marker you placed on the Distance section of your profile. It's the newest of location search features though so many people have yet to fill it out.

The Member Map is generated from the Location Zipcode entered for each profile. We know the map takes awhile to load at this point but we feel like it's still just as helpful. We pay monthly for it so if you notice it is down and gives you an error or blank white page then please let us know. We probably just need to pay the bill! Oops.

You can use the Search feature to specify some general locations (such as country or U.S. state) that people may or may not have submitted to their profiles. It may be less accurate than other options but it can still be utilized to find people within your general range.

Remember that people may have put something generic or vague into any of these fields so you may want to expand your range to include long-distance individuals too. Just in case!

You can find all of these under the Members & Map section of the site.

How is the My Board section useful?

It's just a section that has a few quick tools for you. You can check out who has visited you most recently, get started with your verification status to prove you're not a bot, see what your friends have posted or done most recently on the site, and view your profile stats to know how many blogs or photos you've uploaded.

If you don't want to use it then you don't have to use it!

What is "Verification Status"?

The community as a whole has a major problem with scammers and catfish. The Verification Status tool is just to help you be recognized as being human and not a bot that's set up to past out the same messages and harvest personal information (such as e-mail addresses) from members who naively reply to the automated spam. It is not a fool-proof method of maintaining the highest form of safety but it's a tool you can use to make sure who you're interacting with has submitted a couple of verifiable photos of themselves. You can learn much more about it here though.


This is a feature that you do not have to use to be able to use the site well. We have implemented it as another safety precaution but, of course, it's entirely up to you and your personal discretion how you choose to place value on it or participate in it.

Where can I go to just talk about and with the community as a whole?

Is DateCGL Free?

Yes. All profiles and main features are completely free and do not cost any money. We do not require any payment information to open or maintain an account.

People who have chosen to support the site financially through even a $5 donation help us to keep the site going longer. As a thank you to these people there are a few additional perks they receive.

What do supporters receive as a thank you for their help?

☆Star on profile (sitewide acknowledgement)
★Profile banner image upload (customization/personalization feature)
☆Profile photo limit increase (doubled from 5 to 10)
★Personals ad photo limit increase (tripled from 1 to 3)
☆Personals ads limit (tripled from 1 to 3)
★Personals ad default visibility (from 14 days to 30 days)

☆Additional member search options (Extended Identities, Preferred Relationship Type, Appearance, and more.)

Does someone make money from the site?

No. There are ads on the site and we have an area to help financially support the site but the site costs the administrator money each year to operate. The ads and supportive donations do not generate a profit or even cover the expenses. It is not a business, it's just a service that is being offered to the community. We do ask that you seriously consider to financially support the site so it can be around for a long, long time though.

How do I delete my account?

All support questions are handled in our Help Center and Knowledge Base.

Where can I learn about CGL dating etiquette and rules?

We have opened a discussion forum on DateCGL itself to allow people to discuss dating etiquette, techniques, tips, ask questions, and give advice to successfully match up. You're also welcome to ask for your profile feedback specifically from the group there.

We also feel strongly that Littlespace Online is a highly valuable resource for the community and encourage you to read and participate on that site for more community involvement, education, and resources.

Where is the chat room?

DateCGL does not have a group chat room for all of the site at this time. An active, free community group chat exists on Littlespace Online though.

We use to have an open chat room enabled on DateCGL but found that it just wasn't useful for most users. Most users here are looking to make special, deeply bonded connections privately, one-on-one.
So, instead of an open chatting system, we have a private chatting system between site friends. If you're interested in chatting with someone then befriend them and when they are online you can send them an instant message for a live chat.

If you want to join a safe, active chat group for the community then you are more than welcome to also register a free account on Littlespace Online. Please take note that Littlespace Online is for the general community and not match-making centered.

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