What being a Daddy means to me.

 

I’m 39, I’ve been an ageplayer and daddy for most of my adult life. I have always dated younger than I am, that’s how I have been for a very long time.

It’s not about sex to me, although that component of this kink is quite enjoyable, but should not be the focus of calling yourself a daddy.

It’s about the trust placed in you by your little, your princess whatever name they prefer to be called. It’s an awesome responsibility to have someone place that immense level of trust in you. Your job is to care for them, protect them be that shield between the evils of this world and the person that you care for, love.

It’s about waking up next to them, giving them a bath and washing their hair, it’s about making breakfast and wiping the sleep off their face. It’s a level of trust that a traditional non ddlg relationship rarely finds. It’s about coming home from work with a brand new stuffie because your little has been amazing that week, it’s also about punishing your little when they break the rules. Make no mistake other daddies, you must follow through with that punishment. The moment you don’t, your little loses respect for you, they start to lose trust that you will not follow through with the things you say.

It’s also about waking your little up on a weekend and having them a bag ready because you’re taking them to the zoo or the beach or a toy store, making sure they have a paci, a stuffie, snacks and if they are diapered make sure you have that as well. Be prepared, that shows your little that you have a genuine love for them, that you care enough to remember their favorite movie, tv show, band, cartoon, etc.,

I’m not a daddy to be a perverted older man, I’m a daddy because I want to be, I’m a daddy because I want to care for my little, cuddle with my little, mentor them, to make sure that no matter what happens in their lives that I can be part of littlespace, that I am the safe harbor, that my attention and love are focused on them no matter what.

Just some ramblings from a daddy without a little in the pacific northwest. May all your dreams be sweet and your daddies and littles even sweeter.

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Hi hi all! I am currently looking for a Daddy with no luck...   If you wanna know more about me you can check out my profile. But I am honestly just a lonely little girl who needs her Daddy...wherever he may be....

Being new to ddlg, I find myself thinking back on my behavior in all my past relationships.And I start noticing things about myself back then. How I've never grown out of watching cartoons.How I absolutely start squealing and jumping for joy whenever I go into a toy store.How I love cordial cherries and squirming around in my seat as I suck the juices out of them.I love cute hair bows and make up a whole bunch. I always tend to lose interest in Men that don't seize the opportunities to dominate me even when I throw them out there.How I'm the only one who knows, until now, that if a man exercises real authority over me I crumble and melt and immediately become sweet and submissive.How I absolutely love to be spanked. And I don't like to take charge during sex. I want to be dominated. I don't want to have to worry about all the grown up stuff out there. Not all the time. It's so hard. But what makes me really sad is that the grown up me is 38 years old now.And the little me is just now emerging.Who's going to want little old me? I have stretch marks and loose skin from bearing children.And I'm not young and pretty like a 22 year old.But I'm a very very good girl with a little naughty streak.All I really want is it true Daddy Dom with strong eyes and real Authority who knows that I'M his little girl,and who will know exactly how to take care of me.I may never ever get that though.Maybe I'm too late.

I'm sorry, I can't be 10,000+ peoples' personal match-maker right now, but I can point you toward the tools on the site that you can utilize to help make your search easier.

First, we have a pretty convenient Search page that lets you check off criteria you are looking for in a partner. It also allows you to search by location if you are only seeking local matches. On the Search page itself you will find the capability to search from distance of a zipcode/postal code.

https://www.datecgl.com/users/search

You are also able to look (zoom in and out of a specific area) of the Member Map, that is entirely free to members (I pay a monthly fee for the map so if it's ever down then it's possible I just need to update payment; feel free to let me know if it appears down for you):

https://www.datecgl.com/users/map

There is also the new distance feature to help you find someone within driving or travel distance of the postal code you entered on your profile:

https://www.datecgl.com/users/distance

I am also working on a locational page where you can click on a country or state to see all members within that section. That is an ongoing project with an unknown completion date at this time. Of course, it still means that you will have to do a little legwork yourself and filter through profiles you do and do not like, that do and do not match your preferences.

Browse personal ads separate from user profiles for some potentially faster match finds:

https://www.datecgl.com/memberads/latest

You can read blogs of other members who may post interesting things that could help you get a feel of someone's personality outside of the standard profile sections:

https://www.datecgl.com/blogs

Remember that visiting someone's profile can show you their last activity date. This should help you gain an idea if the account is accessed often and when you might receive a response if you choose to send someone a message. If they don't message you back but you see they've been active since then maybe that indicates their disinterest--and that's still okay!

Speaking of visiting profiles, you're notified when someone looks at your profile. If someone visits your profile multiple times then maybe they're interested in you but are being a little hesitant about saying hello. Don't be afraid to be the first that says, "Hey there! I noticed you noticing me! Maybe we can have some good conversation."

https://www.datecgl.com/my-visitors

I stand firm that the way you present yourself and your public activity levels help. So, I always encourage people to participate openly in the overall community so that you can display your knowledge, seriousness, and personality in a safe, comfortable way:

https://www.littlespaceonline.com/

It helps to start conversation sometimes by saying, "I just answered a post on Littlespace Online and I was wondering what you think about it too." Sometimes good conversation stems from exchanging general knowledge and not necessarily immediate conversation of romance. Some people need time to get to know you before they can open up that part of themselves to conversation.

And making conversation in the chat room or interest groups isn't a bad idea. It doesn't have to be romantic conversation. People like to get to know each other and build up from there:

https://www.datecgl.com/groups

The chat bar is located at the bottom of the page and after you've befriended someone they will appear as online when signed into their account (unless they've opted out of the chat system).

If you find that the chat room group itself isn't so active then I would suggest you pop over to Littlespace Online for the overall community chat. Just please be aware that Littlespace Online is not intended for any match-making purposes.

Lastly, I'm finding that by being the person who initiates private message contact you may increase your interactions. Don't be afraid to say hello to people that might be interesting to you! People appreciate the kindness. Just remember not to come off being too forward. Sometimes a friendly stance is the best way to start with the idea of romance being once you build up a little knowledge of one another. It's really, sincerely okay to just have casual conversation back and forth before even considering romance.

I send an automated, pre-written message upon registration now and have found that over 50% of people reply to me. The message is just a welcome message with some handy dandy site tips and motivation to help people stay hopeful while searching. While I use to receive only about 3 messages a week at most, I now receive a few dozen. That's a massive "improvement" and I think it speaks volumes about it being okay to share a kind little greeting to help create a comfortable atmosphere. People appreciate kindness and I, personally, think we need to share a little more of that to make the world a better place.

So, hey, don't be afraid to search! Even typical, "vanilla", people struggle to find their special someone in the world. You will have to put in some effort but the payoff will be worth it. Take your time, be up for platonic friendship, and network by making yourself safe and friendly in the public community so more people will be interested in getting to know you deeper.

Best of luck in your search!

Hi Hi..im diane and im a little,,im 19 and looking for a daddy that will love me and respect me and be there with me. It's hard for me to search my new daddy because I developed this standards in me because all of the daddy that I encountered just want pleasure and they didn't even given me rules. If your reading this future daddy, I hope you can be a real daddy that I know in stories.

The thing I want/need most in life is to have my dream daddy. He would help me get into little space, spoil me by taking care of me, give me bubble baths, let me play with toys, let my wear diapers when I’m feeling extra little, help me do stuff when I’m feeling little like brush my hair, help get me dressed/ pick out clothes, give me sippy cups or bottles to drink from, give and enforce rules, and punish me if I break any rules.

Hello out there. so nice to see that there's a safe place for all of us to play. My name is Angel. I'm new to all of this, and I mean all of it. I'm discovering myself and discovering a new community. So just a little about myself...

 maybe a week ago I was on a different site and I ran into a Daddy Dom. He was very bossy and firm, but he was fun and fair and strong!. And it really got me hot. But I was really confused because I didn't know why. So, being a very smart girl, I started studying. And boy did I learn a lot. The first night I studied I didn't even get any sleep. Because there was so much to learn, and I wanted to be smart.

And it was by studying so hard and so good that I realized my last relationship was pretty much ddlg. I loved it when he would tell me I was a good girl.  When we got into arguments I would always yell at him and tell him he was a big meanie. he would look at me so funny, and he would tell me that I argue like a little girl. I love prancing around the house and making things for him to eat and having him praise me over and over for all the good things I did.  he kept me out of trouble and made sure I was doing the right thing all the time. And if I misbehaved... Well he got really fussy. And he would fuss fuss fuss and fuss and more. But he never hurt me, at least not with his hands. But he was sloppy Daddy. he wasn't a real daddy. And he was not a good daddy. He left me alone too many times and for way too long. so the last time he left me all by myself, it was for 12 days.   12 whole days without cuddles or kisses or check-ups. and it hurt me so bad. so my grown up self took my little self and hid her away.

 but now I'm lonely. Because the big meanie had to go. the grown-up me made him leave because he was not good for us. and now I'm curious.I hope someday I find me a daddy Dom who's really good to me.

So good luck to everybody out there and good luck to little me and I hope everybody gets what they want!

While searching groups, I came upon Breastfeeding lgbt+ and that's fine, but I wonder why such a group is limited to lgbt+ and if they wish to keep it that way, then why not create another one? Personally, I would join, and my spider sense tells me I'm not the only one. You know, 90% of the population does not understand or accept many of the lifestyles, interests and kinks that are found here. 15 years ago, I realized there was a term and a community for someone like me. That was a great day. It was a less great day when I discovered that if you were a self admitted ABDL boy, good luck to you, if you live in the U.S. While Europe seems much more open, here, the community is much more accepting of girls and the ddlg dynamic, for example. But if you desire a mdlb relationship and not interested in sissification or humiliation (which, in current times seems to be the only way boys are more accepted, due to the fact that somehow all these aspects became intertwined over the years) I just think that if there's only a relatively small part of the world that could openly welcome you, it should. There is a very well know site (I won't give the name because I don't promote or endorse them in any possible way) but they seem to be the worst offenders at being a closed society. After a valiant 3 attempts at being a member, I had such a negative experience, I had to leave and truly felt worthless. From the moment you signed up, any male who attempted to speak to a female was considered a creep before they utter a word, no matter what the intent. Some may call this a rant. It isn't. It's a voice of years of experience, trying to point out and change things that haven't yet changed.

I never had a caregiver  i would really like a mommy right now  . I been so stressed out because i cant go little  because my little age goes to 0 to 3 yrars old an i want to go little help me