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I'm sorry, I can't be 10,000+ peoples' personal match-maker right now, but I can point you toward the tools on the site that you can utilize to help make your search easier.

First, we have a pretty convenient Search page that lets you check off criteria you are looking for in a partner. It also allows you to search by location if you are only seeking local matches. On the Search page itself you will find the capability to search from distance of a zipcode/postal code.

https://www.datecgl.com/users/search

You are also able to look (zoom in and out of a specific area) of the Member Map, that is entirely free to members (I pay a monthly fee for the map so if it's ever down then it's possible I just need to update payment; feel free to let me know if it appears down for you):

https://www.datecgl.com/users/map


There is also the new distance feature to help you find someone within driving or travel distance of the postal code you entered on your profile:


https://www.datecgl.com/users/distance


I am also working on a locational page where you can click on a country or state to see all members within that section. That is an ongoing project with an unknown completion date at this time. Of course, it still means that you will have to do a little legwork yourself and filter through profiles you do and do not like, that do and do not match your preferences.


Browse personal ads separate from user profiles for some potentially faster match finds:

https://www.datecgl.com/memberads/latest

You can read blogs of other members who may post interesting things that could help you get a feel of someone's personality outside of the standard profile sections:

https://www.datecgl.com/blogs

Remember that visiting someone's profile can show you their last activity date. This should help you gain an idea if the account is accessed often and when you might receive a response if you choose to send someone a message. If they don't message you back but you see they've been active since then maybe that indicates their disinterest--and that's still okay!

Speaking of visiting profiles, you're notified when someone looks at your profile. If someone visits your profile multiple times then maybe they're interested in you but are being a little hesitant about saying hello. Don't be afraid to be the first that says, "Hey there! I noticed you noticing me! Maybe we can have some good conversation."

https://www.datecgl.com/my-visitors

I stand firm that the way you present yourself and your public activity levels help. So, I always encourage people to participate openly in the overall community so that you can display your knowledge, seriousness, and personality in a safe, comfortable way:

https://www.littlespaceonline.com/

It helps to start conversation sometimes by saying, "I just answered a post on Littlespace Online and I was wondering what you think about it too." Sometimes good conversation stems from exchanging general knowledge and not necessarily immediate conversation of romance. Some people need time to get to know you before they can open up that part of themselves to conversation.

And making conversation in the chat room or interest groups isn't a bad idea. It doesn't have to be romantic conversation. People like to get to know each other and build up from there:

https://www.datecgl.com/groups

The chat bar is located at the bottom of the page and after you've befriended someone they will appear as online when signed into their account (unless they've opted out of the chat system).

If you find that the chat room group itself isn't so active then I would suggest you pop over to Littlespace Online for the overall community chat. Just please be aware that Littlespace Online is not intended for any match-making purposes.


Lastly, I'm finding that by being the person who initiates private message contact you may increase your interactions. Don't be afraid to say hello to people that might be interesting to you! People appreciate the kindness. Just remember not to come off being too forward. Sometimes a friendly stance is the best way to start with the idea of romance being once you build up a little knowledge of one another. It's really, sincerely okay to just have casual conversation back and forth before even considering romance.

I send an automated, pre-written message upon registration now and have found that over 50% of people reply to me. The message is just a welcome message with some handy dandy site tips and motivation to help people stay hopeful while searching. While I use to receive only about 3 messages a week at most, I now receive a few dozen. That's a massive "improvement" and I think it speaks volumes about it being okay to share a kind little greeting to help create a comfortable atmosphere. People appreciate kindness and I, personally, think we need to share a little more of that to make the world a better place.

So, hey, don't be afraid to search! Even typical, "vanilla", people struggle to find their special someone in the world. You will have to put in some effort but the payoff will be worth it. Take your time, be up for platonic friendship, and network by making yourself safe and friendly in the public community so more people will be interested in getting to know you deeper.

Best of luck in your search!
admin Nov 10 '18 · Rate: 5 · Comments: 1 · Tags: dating, help, datecgl, features
lillaprinsen
I've been wanting to make a blog post on here but I don't know what to write?? Like do I just go on about my life as normal or do I nerd out about the MCU and how unprepared I am for Avengers Infinite War?? Or do I write about my experiences as a FTM little in this community? Or do I write about like just general little thoughts??? Like how do I do this??? Well here I am and until I figure this out I'll do all of these things, I'll write about awkward encounters in my daily life where my little side and my big side gets squashed together and can't work, about how my dysphoria fucks it up a lot of the time and yeah... 

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